Dealing with alcoholics really takes its toll, I’m not talking about your run of the mill drunks. I’m talking about insane alcoholic drama involving injuries, marital discord (between the 2 alcoholics, everything blissful here..) and phone calls at 3am on a work night. Seriously and I was wondering why I was getting so many panic attacks?
This weekend we had a break from them. I love them very much but they were trying to drag us into it. I hung out with her by herself on Friday and everything was fine. Together way too much drama…I got a nasty message from her husband saying I’m taking her side. So I sent him a rational message letting him know that I think they are both equally to blame and that I don’t want any part of their arguments. I’m hoping he was drunk when he wrote it and now feels stupid. After that, I laid low for about a week, which is perfect because now I can’t get accused of taking anyone’s side. Of course I’m NOT taking sides in a fight that’s both of their faults. It truly is both of their faults, and they have too many problems.
I could honestly see anyone’s marriage going sour if either person is dealing with an addiction. I think if Adam was an alcoholic it would be really hard to stay married to him. If we were both alcoholics then I would naturally assume it would be even harder to stay together. You really can’t help people that are in the midst of addiction because they don’t want it yet and may never want it.
The good news is that they have decided not to bring another human being into this mess. Before I found out about the severity of their problems I said that I would support whatever decision they chose. Now I flat out told her that under no circumstances is now the right time to add to their family and she agreed with me 100%. I told her if she proceeded with those plans then she would end up wrecking her marriage for sure. Especially since she can’t stop her drinking when she’s around him. Not a good idea at all…..
She’s a different person when they aren’t together. She seems fun and happy and doesn’t even drink. It’s when she goes home to him that she starts. I’m not saying it’s his fault she’s drinking but him being unemployed, depressed and also an alcoholic sure can’t help. They need to get help, she’s said so but isn’t acting on it. He refuses to admit he even needs help.
I miss my friends! I want them to get better and to have a normal loving relationship. It really sucks when your friends stress you out. I haven’t need a Dr. X during the day since I haven’t seen them and I feel fucked up about that. I just hope that things get better for them soon. The situation is not in my control though, and the only control I have is to remove myself when they get to be too much.
I think vodka is evil. All the alcoholics I have ever met in my life chug the vodka right out of the bottle. Maybe it’s because it’s easier to hide because it doesn’t smell as much. (although I can still smell it.) I just drink wine. I’m a wino and I’ve never had any problems. So I’m sticking to wine…..that other shit is too harsh on everything- your body, your life, your marriage everything.
